Tsukasa

Well, I am hoping to get advice about this...
You see, I have a friend -- a girl friend who has a guy friend...They were close friends. But then, this girl friend of mine got sick and absent from school for a while.

She finally came to school one saturday, of course, many of us wondered what happened to her and what her sickness is. Well, that night, her guy friend asked her about it...I heard the guy was very andamant on getting answers via the Yahoo Messenger.

Don't know the exact details though, but this girl friend of mine told me that she did not gave an answer about her sickness to this guy, and in the end, the guy said that he would never talk to her again. Well, this morning at class, they were like different persons and what's more, I got mixed up with it.

I was being pushed to take sides when I don't really want to. But I can't help on wondering who is at fault in this. Is it my girl friend or her guy friend? And what can I do to help resolve the situation?

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jinalyn

I think it is more of the guy's fault because his reason for not talking to ur friend is shallow.I mean, they are close friends but then he chose to kinda ended it by not talking to the girl anymore just because the girl didn't tell him what's her sickness is. They,being close friends, do not mean that he has to know evertyhing about the girl,of course,there would be secret sharing but there are things that he sometimes need to understand and just let it be as a secret,a bit of respect for privacy is also needed or if he really wants to know then maybe he could wait after some time when the girl is already prepared to tell about what happened.
Also,the guy expected the girl to tell him what happened coz they are close friends so i think it hurt him or made him feel unimportant when the girl refused to tell.
But if the girl has that "trust" to her close friend,that trust is enough to be her reason to tell what happened or maybe she is not really prepared to tell for now.

About u,being pushed to take sides,i dont think it would be good to choose between them but if u really have to ,then i guess u should be at ur friend's side not to the guy's side since it is the girl who is ur friend.
Being on her side doesn't mean that u need to ignore that guy too..
You could just clear up her mind and give advice about it ,listen to her,and see what you could do.

Tsukasa

Well, that makes sense...
It's just that I know the guy too...

But are you suggesting that she should have told the guy what her sickness is?

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jinalyn

Yes,kind of. 'Coz if they are really "that close" then i guess it's a reason enough for her to tell him about it. As we could see, the guy felt bad coz of that 'coz he's expecting that the girl would definitely tell her because they are so close.

But to the girl's side,I guess what happened to her wasn't a simple illness and that stopped her from telling,'coz if it's not a big deal, then why should she hides it?
Maybe,she would tell it when she's ready or if not, then the guy must understand her feelings too because there are things that would be hard to be open with someone no matter how close they are.

The best thing to do is that they really should talk,the girl must explain it to the guy why she can't tell ir or what so the guy wouldn't feel unimportant or feel that he's not good enough to be trusted.
The guy has a fault too 'coz he is kinda agressive of knowing what really happened but i guess it's normal,even we acted that way sometimes especially when it happened to the person we care about.
We always wanna know like almost everything about the person we care about so i guess that's the how the guy dealt with it.

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Tsukasa

I see...
well, I don't think her illness is that big, she wasn't absent for a whole month or something, just a day or two and no one in our circle of friends knows about it...not even me (and I happened to be an even closer friend of hers)...so I wondered why the guy was so worked up about not knowing it

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jinalyn

Ah.. he might like the girl more than a friend coz he's kinda over actin'

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Tsukasa

I suppose so...
that whole event caused an uproar in our circle of friends because of the sudden change between my girl friend and her guy friend...so, it's really quite a problem now

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jinalyn

Oh.. hope things would be solved as soon as possible.

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Tsukasa

Yeah, I hope it could be resolved before our trimestral break.

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Each of us have our own point of view, no matter what someone may tell you, never loose faith in yourself and in what you believe is true.

jinalyn

Yeah.. have u talked with ur girl friend?
what's her stand about it? Is she thinking of talking to the guy?

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