Question for the Ladies from a Guy

**mattseanbachman** · 12-30-2006, 05:37 PM

Hi Everyone,

I thought I would come to this forum to ask y'all something that's been on my mind...please excuse the intrusion of a guy into your realm!

I'm nineteen years old, I go to college, and I'm not very confident in my ability with girls. Seen Hitch? I'm like that guy from King of Queens.

I need some honest advice about what girls like in guys (be brutally honest, please), for the sole reason that I need to know that when I go up to a girl to talk with her, I can be confident that I'm "someone likable." You know?

Anyway, here are some basics about me that might be pertinent:
I'm nineteen
I go to college
very good student (A's and B's).
I think I am friendly and nice, and funny (in my opinion)

And some of my not-so-good traits:
*Very very shy
*I'm not "me" until I get a feel for someone
*I don't dress well
*I don't talk much around people I don't know.

Could you give me any general advice as to what I can do to be more attractive to women?

**jinalyn** · 12-31-2006, 02:47 AM

Each girl has a different taste when it comes to liking guys but I am more on the character of the guy. I get easily turn off if he's boastful.
As for me, I like a guy who's intelligent,nice,sincere.
About the physical appearance, it's perfectly fine with me as long as he is presentable. The one I won't get scared to look at lol. haha.
I'm 19 and I'm in college and I hardly like someone in our campus.Seems like it's running out of siuncere guys lol.
About your not-so-good-traits, you really need to at least overcome your shyness. You're shy to approach a girl? Just think it this way, you gotta make a first move because you know what? Girls often feel the same way! We're just shy to approach guys first in fear of being rejected.
I think it's normal to not being youself until you get a feel for someone. Sometimes it's just really hard to deal with other people especially if you don't know them yet. About dressing, it's just easy to change that one. Try and experiment other styles but see to it that the result would still be YOU!
Not talking much around people who you don't know is normal.

Improve your weaknesses and be yourself. You don't really have to impress women for what you are not. It would be so much better if they like you for what you are,but of course, it doesn't mean that you're not gonna keep yourself sophisticated.

**Fun** · 01-07-2007, 07:51 AM

lmfao jinalyn. "About the physical appearance, it's perfectly fine with me as long as he is presentable. The one I won't get scared to look at."

Are you just shy to talk to girls that you find...attractive....or just any girl? what do you mean you don't dress well? haha, its my first time using attractive and girl in the same sentence.

**jinalyn** · 01-07-2007, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Fun

lmfao jinalyn. "About the physical appearance, it's perfectly fine with me as long as he is presentable. The one I won't get scared to look at."

Are you just shy to talk to girls that you find...attractive....or just any girl? what do you mean you don't dress well? haha, its my first time using attractive and girl in the same sentence.

Haha of course! He should look presentable.
The one I'm not scared to show my parents lol. In short, he doesn't posses a scary face lol. haha.

**Glitter Boots** · 02-02-2007, 01:22 PM

The only way to build your courage up is to stop thinking the negative. I think its best you be yourself. I would like someone to be theirself when i meet them instead of a fake and find out what they are really like. If you aint yourself straight away you will after carry on pretending, which aint what any guy i know likes to do. As for apperance, just where what you feel comfy and confident in. If its comfy and you think you look good in it then wear it. It will make you less shy. To see what will happen to a girl if you talk to her, smile at her a few times when you walk past before you actually talk to her. If she smiles back then talk to her. Even if it just starts out saying hi when your walking past.

***LJ*** · 02-13-2007, 07:40 AM

Re: Question for the Ladies from a Guy
Well for me if your shy try to improve yourself build self confidence by improving yourself thats the best way, i think

**RascalFlattsRocks** · 02-14-2007, 09:41 PM

Well sometimes it is very hard to tell in what taste a girl has. Such as this, there is a girl at school you like and she's a tomboy and so you come over and ask her, do you like ACDC? And she eewww they suck! And youve totaly blown it. Then you have the popular preppy girl who is a girly girl, ( just for the info I am not one of those types) and she askes you if you like ACDC and you say yes and then whalla, youve got a girlfriend. Ather advice is that mabey if you freak girls out, you should get a personality changee from some girls that are willing to help you. Good Luck!

**gurLfritz** · 06-21-2007, 12:43 PM

Every individual is unique..
Each gUy like yOu is unique...
and Each gUrL is aLso unique...

Base on my past observations with my friends and from personal experience...
gUrLz like bOys who are not afraid and not shy to do their acts...
CONFIDENCE is the term...
However... seldom times.. TOO MUCH confidence usually turn gUrLs off...

Tips: to be able to get a gUrLs attention... YOU must be JOVIAL... swear! gUrLz usuaLLy look for this quality!

thAtz aLL...
hOpe i heLped!

**Napster** · 07-03-2007, 04:14 PM

Ok bro,
I can Agree with Jen (Jinalyn) for some, and I totally agree with "stop thinking the negative"
aaa that you should do.
coz till you dont do that you wont change a bit.And Never think some one else is better than you coz who knows he may look better from out side, but from inside he'll be worse than you.
I dont wanna say the same thing others said try to do those stuff what others said I hope it works Good Luck,
Finally I wanna say some thing. "If some thing is for you, you'll get it.Doesn't matter you try or not you'll get it.
But if its not for you, no matter how hard you try you wont get"
thats a Fact Bro.Good Luck!

**BeautifulSoul** · 07-27-2007, 08:25 PM

Well for me..its the way he smiles, and how much he cares about me. Thats when I knew that I truly loved. He just smiled, and from the inside..I would just melt..I love his smile. And..he once held my hand, when corssing the street, he just shows me that he cares. Just be yourself, and show that you care, and smile...thats what I loved.